

3 weeks ago we began by asking a question –
The nine verses from Ephesians 5 v 25 to the end is a comprehensive description of the kind of love that Christ has for His church, and that Christ expects every man to have for his wife.
1. A SACRIFICIAL LOVE. V 25.
2. A SANCTIFYING LOVE. V 26 – 27.
3. A SATISFYING LOVE. V 28 – 30.
4. A SEPARATED LOVE. V 31 – 32
5. A SUMMARY OF LOVE. V 33.
Sacrificial love is the husband making sure that his love is
of such a quality that, come what may, his wife will reign so
supremely in his heart that no sacrifice would seem too great for
him to make for her.
This is keeping before him the example of the Lord Jesus Christ
and His great love for His church.
This morning we come to the second of the elements of the description of how a man should love His wife –
At the beginning of both verses 26 and 27 the little word THAT
appears. It is there to indicate to us the grand purpose of the
Lord Jesus Christ in His showing His great love towards His
church in dying for her. To die for her is a marvellous thing in
itself – but now Paul tells us the reason that He did it
– the purpose of His death on the cross with regard to His
Church – it was to SANCTIFY, CLEANSE and ultimately GLORIFY
His people who make up His church. We can see the IMMEDIATE
purpose of the Lord’s self-giving in verse 26 and the
ULTIMATE purpose in verse 27. Verse 26 describes what He does for
us as believers through His death, and verse 27 describes the end
to which He did it – why He died – to present the
church to Himself in brilliant purity and holiness. We must
understand however that the Church is already right now the Bride
of Christ. But there is preparation for her to go through before
she can be made manifest in all her beauty.
As we study this Purposeful Love on the part of the Lord Jesus
Christ this morning let each of us who believe listen thankfully
to the doctrine that the Lord Jesus Christ has ordained that He
will sanctify us in this life and glorify us in the next!
The word SANCTIFY means to set apart. It is the Greek word
HAGIADZO and is variously translated sanctify, hallow or be holy.
It is a word that indicates many things. It describes the
separation of holy things from profane things. It speaks of
consecration and dedication of people to God, cutting themselves
off from worldly pollutants in order to be wholly devoted to the
Lord Jesus Christ. It also has the sense and meaning of purify
– to cleanse externally, to be purified internally by the
renewing of the soul and to be made free from the guilt of
sin.
In the marriage ceremony the husband is set apart from all others
to belong to the wife. The wife is set apart from all others to
belong to the husband. Any interference with this God ordained
and God given arrangement is SIN.
As far as the believer in the Lord Jesus Christ is concerned
because He or she was chosen in Christ from the foundation of the
world then historically speaking the elect Christian was set
apart to be married to Jesus before time began. And the Lord
Jesus was set apart to be the husband of all believers also
before time began.
He determined to love His bride before the creation of the world
and is called the “lamb slain from the foundation of the
world.”
Because He is God then He has kept His promise to be married, set
apart to His Church – all believers. He has not once failed
in that promise. None who were chosen for Him have been lost, can
be lost, from amongst those alive today, nor will be lost from
those who have yet to be born.
The problem with the bride – us that is – is that we
are born in sin as rebels and decided early in our lives, acting
in our rebellious nature, that we would not be set apart for Him
as part of His bride. Our fallen natures made this inevitable
about us and we had to be wooed, courted and loved so that by the
Holy Spirit we felt that love. The Lord Jesus Christ came from
heaven to seek His bride. He bought her paying the dowry of His
own blood and then died for her on the cross.
But the Church now needs to be made ready for eternity as the
wife of the King of creation the Son of God the Lord Jesus
Christ. She has been polluted by her sins and rebellions. She
needs to be made holy like her husband. She needs to be washed
and cleansed from her sins. This is the immediate
purpose of Christ’s love - the Lord Jesus Christ is
sanctifying His church in order to make her Holy like Him and He
does it through His unique cleansing agent – the Ministry
of the Word.
Two statements made by the Lord to His disciples confirm that
this is His work –
In a marriage the love of the husband ought to be cleansing
her (and him) so that both husband and wife are becoming more
like the Lord. Even their physical relationship should be so
controlled by God that it becomes a means of SPIRITUAL enrichment
as well as personal enjoyment. The husband must not use his wife
for his own pleasure, but rather is to show the kind of love that
is mutually rewarding and sanctifying. The marriage experience
should be one of constant growth with the Lord Jesus Christ as
the Lord of the home. Love enlarges and enriches, whereas
selfishness does just the opposite. How do the husband and wife
become cleansed and sanctified?
Through the Word – the Ministry of the Word. Is this merely
coming to hear the word preached? Certainly that is part of it
because it is one of the means of grace and every believer ought
to be present when there is public ministry of the Word of the
Lord Jesus Christ. But it is more than that. Husbands should be
taking the lead in ministry of the word in their families. And
that is not just a daily Bible Reading with wife and children.
Ministry of the Word is also living the word, practical Biblical
Holiness demonstrated as a loving leader in the home and in the
community. It means making decisions based on the Word. It means
ruling, loving, disciplining and nurturing wife and children with
the principles and precepts of the Word. For the single it means
a unique direct feeding on the Word of God as the Lord Jesus
Christ ministers to you through fellowship with other believers
and preaching that you hear and study that you engage in.
Whatever happens there is provision from Christ our Bridegroom
for all of us to be made holy – to be sanctified.
Can we say that this sanctifying process is going on in us? The
Lord intends us to grow – we have to be prepared to do so.
He desires to separate us for His holy service. But are we
erecting any barriers to His sanctifying influence? Do we go to
places; get involved with activities that will do our souls no
good and indeed could harm them? Do we allow certain worldly
influences to dominate our thinking so that the voice of the
Saviour is never much more than a whisper? When we have heard
preaching – the Ministry of the word – do we allow
other inputs into our minds that can snatch away the power of
what we have heard? Does music, radio or TV get turned on, on the
Lord’s Day, when you come home from hearing the word? My
friends do not expect to grow in holiness through the ministry of
the word if you shut out its message to you not long after you
have heard it!
This then is the first part of the sanctifying process of the
Lord’s love to us. The second is
When we look around at one another and other members of
Christ’s church in other assemblies, all too often we see
the spots and blemishes, faults and failings in those who like us
have been redeemed from lives of sin and corruption. We tend to
make much of the negatives. We see a church that is weak and
divided. Yet we do not see the Church as the Lord Jesus Christ
sees the church and as He has always seen it. He
sees His church as complete and perfect, glorious and bright as
the morning, fairer than the day. HE sees the church as it will
be when His transforming work is done. HE sees the church as a
mirror image of Himself. It is all because He is able to cleanse
the church by the washing of water by the word.
Some people have understood this phrase to only mean Baptism.
They have deduced that Baptism is an agent of regeneration and
that people are saved by being baptised. The Chancellor and his
wife believed that, along with many millions of others in the
world, when their little girl Jennifer, who died this week, was
sprinkled with water and words and prayers were said over her
tiny frail body.
But the Bible says that we are saved by the blood of the Lord
Jesus Christ not by the water of Baptism. We sympathise of course
with all who have had children who die in infancy and our prayers
are with such who grieve today. But this scripture does not teach
that if you are baptised then you are cleansed from your sins. It
is ever the other way around – those who have been saved by
the grace of God and are trusting that the blood of the Lord
Jesus Christ has washed them clean from their sins, want to be
Baptised in order to acknowledge what has happened to them, by
grace.
The Greek word translated washing here is LOUTRON. The only other
place in the NT where this word is used and translated WASHING is
in Titus 3 v 5
This Titus passage speaks of the work of God the Holy Spirit
regenerating us, making us alive, by the action of washing us
from our sins through the Word of God.
Even though these two passages are closely related they are not
identical. Here in Ephesians the passage mentions the washing of
water in connection with THE SPOKEN WORD. The word is WASHING and
indicates a continuous process – indeed it is process that
lasts from conversion for the rest of the believer’s life!
So it cannot refer to the event of Baptism and the words spoken
by the minister in the Baptistry as some have suggested.
The key to the use of LOUTRON is its connection to the symbolic
rite of washing the hands and body by the priests in the Temple
in the Old Testament. LOUTRON is the Greek word used to translate
the laver. The priest, when he approached God, came first to the
brazen altar where an animal was sacrificed and its blood was
shed. This ritual symbolised the radical cleansing for sin, which
is the basis of our salvation. Sin is so deep a stain that it can
only be washed away in the blood of the Lord Jesus Christ.
Having been to the altar, the priest proceeded towards the
tabernacle where the mercy seat behind the veil symbolised the
awesome presence of God amongst His people. Coming to the laver
the priest saw that although he was only a few steps away from
the Holy place he was already defiled from contact with the
world. He did not need a new sacrifice at this point: he needed
to be washed in water to remove the revealed defilement. He
needed recurrent cleansing.
The blood of the Lord Jesus Christ secures our regeneration. The
water of the Word, the Ministry of the scriptures, acts like a
laver. The word of God reveals to us the defilements that we have
picked up just by walking through this evil world. The Word of
God – the cleansing agent – removes the defilement.
Psalm 119 has a familiar verse –
How does a husband cleanse his wife and himself? By taking
heed to the Word of God. By recognising that he and his wife live
in a rotten world fraught with dangers and wickedness and likely
to infect and pollute their marriage, their family and in a wider
sense the community. The Lord Jesus knows what this world is like
– He has been here! We are not yet in His glory –
heaven – we are stuck here, temporarily. This world is not
our home. But the Lord is patient with us. He works with us while
here on earth so that one day we will be seen in all of His glory
and perfection. His love travails and transforms. His love is the
divine model for the husband’s role in marriage. Are we men
taking our cleansing role seriously? Are we serious about the
word of God? Do we know its power in our lives to walk worthily
of our calling as men? And do we minister that same powerful word
to our wives and families? More widely, are the men of this
assembly concerned for each other and for all of our fellow
members – to experience the cleansing of the word of God in
our midst?
Many churches have closed for one reason – a departure from
the centrality of the washing of the Word of God week by week,
year by year. When the Bible is thrown out of the window of a
home or a church, death is not far away! But the Lord Jesus loved
the church and gave Himself for it – so
Some maybe labouring in this and find the washing of water by
the word a difficult concept. Some have shared with me their
frustration at not being able to retain the word either when they
read it in private devotions, or when they hear it in family
worship or in the public services. They despair of their
forgetful minds ever benefiting from the Word of God and the
washing effect of it. Yet you do not remember the wash that you
had three weeks ago do you? Or that soak in the bath? But it made
you clean did it not – until you became dirty again?
The washing of the word has been described as the action of a
colander. A Christian once likened himself to a colander –
every week the Word of God was poured into his mind and soul
– but every week it seemed to just pass through and became
lost to him. That was until a sister described the straining of
her vegetables – the hot water was poured on and passed
through the colander – nevertheless after wards the
colander was much cleaner due to the action of the water being
passed through it. We receive these effects Sunday by Sunday. The
preached word of God cleanses us in its very action of being
poured out – and we are not to be worried when we cannot
remember what has been taught – because despite of the
apparent loss there has been a cleaning activity going on in the
soul.
The next element of the Lord’s purpose is found in verse
27
The process of sanctification leads to glorification. There is
that necessary work in our lives that removes certain things from
our souls. It is the ultimate purpose of the love of the Lord
Jesus Christ for His church.
It seems to most young people who are maturing at school and
noticing changes in their bodies, that one of the worst things
that can happen to you is SPOTS! There are blackheads and
pimples, unwanted freckles and septic things that appear to be
huge when observed in the mirror and feel like they stick out
several inches from the face when they occur – so that
everybody in the world can see them – it is most
embarrassing and humiliating.
I can remember buying some foul smelling ointment in a tube to
deal with the problem when I was younger but it wasn’t all
that effective and I learnt to live with the spots.
Spots indicate some kind of defilement on the outside of us. The
Church today is like a spotty teenager. The Church faces
defilement day in day out so that we can never say that there is
such a thing as a perfect Church – here on earth that is!
Because the church becomes defiled by the world it needs constant
cleansing and the Word of God as we have been seeing is the
cleansing agent. Spots are unsightly – but the cleansed
church will in heaven have no spots on her at all. Her face and
skin will be beautiful and pleasing to the eye of the Lord Jesus
Christ her bridegroom. In the meantime we will have spots. The
Lord will have us to be without spots when we get to glory
– so He has called us to avoid getting spots any more
– James says in his epistle –
But for our part – how are we to keep ourselves free of spots – unspotted? Again the Word ministers to us –
Spots must be dealt with now – avoided and treated
because a glorious church will have no spots! Regular cleansing
is needed through the word of God and the blood of the Lord Jesus
Christ applied to our souls.
At the other end of life we have the crows feet and the stretch
marks – in other words – wrinkles. Someone has coined
a name for senior citizens as “wrinklies.” Wrinkles
are certainly not popular with some people. The aging process has
provided some pharmaceutical companies with a very nice income
from the sale of anti wrinkle creams, moisturising preparations
and so on. The theory is that wrinkled skin is undernourished and
needs to be fed. Whereas spots are caused by defilement from the
outside, wrinkles are cause by decay on the inside.
But here is a wonderful thought that should encourage us all
– as the Church is nourished by the Word of God, the
wrinkles ought to disappear. For the soul of the Christian the
Bible, the Word of God is the ultimate treatment for wrinkles
– the wrinkles will vanish – the soul wrinkles caused
by indwelling sin will be smoothed out – and then we
ourselves will vanish – to appear in the presence of His
glory with exceeding joy – like Him! Perfect! Cleansed!
Sanctified! The Lord wants His church to be presented in her
glory to Himself on that day – the great day. She, that
means we, will be perfect in knowledge and holiness. No
deformity, no defilement, pleasing to His eye with no moral or
spiritual stains. What a prospect!
The verse goes on to say more – no blemishes. The soul will
be free from all remnants of indwelling sin. Those besetting sins
of ours that constantly trip us up – all gone my friends
– removed, cleansed, and perfect! Oh brothers and sisters
– can’t you get excited about this? What glory is
before us!
However this perfect beauty of the bride of the Lord Jesus Christ
has not yet been made plain. That is because the wedding is in
the future.
We should remind ourselves of the marriage customs implied in
scripture which are slightly different to ours.
First there was the BETROTHAL. This is more binding an
arrangement than our engagement. In the betrothal the terms of
the marriage are accepted in the presence of witnesses and
God’s blessing is pronounced upon the union. From the date
of the Betrothal the man and woman are from that date husband and
wife.
Next there is an INTERVAL between the betrothal and the wedding
feast, during which time the bridegroom raises the necessary
dowry to pay the father of the bride.
Then there is the PREPARATION and PROCESSION with a view to the
marriage feast. During this time the bride adorns herself and
prepares. The groom also puts on His best clothes and he goes,
along with his friends and torches, to the home of the bride to
RECEIVE HIS BRIDE. After this he takes his bride to go to the
place where the wedding feast is being held. After this the feast
itself – and this festivity can last between 7 days to a
fortnight.
We the church are in the INTERVAL period which lasts from the
ascension of the Lord Jesus Christ from earth to heaven right up
to His coming again. It is during this time that the bride must
make herself ready. But looking at the preparation period from
the Lord God’s point of view it is the Lord Himself who
makes the church ready AS WELL as the bride getting herself
ready. She owes all of her beauty to Him. This picture well
illustrates the prospect of the Church’s glory – a
perfect future that will last forever. The Lord Jesus Christ is
coming for us His church – and we are being made ready, and
making ourselves ready – both processes side by side.
But only those who are sanctified in this life will be glorified
in the next! Let us put it more plainly – only those who
have been saved by God’s grace will be transformed by the
Lord Jesus Christ to be made like Him. This means that unless the
Lord has made you clean through the miracle of regeneration and
conversion, revealed by the Word of God, then He will not be
coming for you! If you are not a Christian today then you are in
danger. When the Bridegroom comes you will not be ready.
Conversion, becoming a Christian makes you ready! Therefore turn
to Christ today – believe in His work on the cross. Trust
that work as the only way that you can become ready to meet Him
with joy, and not with sorrow, when He comes. Repent of your sins
and trust this wonderful loving saviour and be ready for His
coming to take His church to glory!
